Let me start first by saying that we believe the foster care system is trying to do what is best for the children in foster care, but it seems to us that they are making this process more difficult than it has to be. First, some social workers will not even consider us for children because we do not live in the United States at this exact moment. What I fail to see is how the US is so much better than other places. The US has no problem with its citizens adopting children from other countries and bringing them into the US, but the other way around is not acceptable. We are US citizens and we will be back in the US in 7 months. We want our children to experience this with us and we would love any children we got. It is incredibly frustrating that because we are not living in the US currently we are not even considered for many children.
Secondly, and maybe even more frustrating, is the fact that they have created these permanency committees. Don't get me wrong I think this could be a very good thing. However, what has been explained to us is that the people who make up these committees often have not spoken to any of the families being considered for adopting the children. I keep wondering how they can make the best decision for the children when they don't know the possibilities and they also don't know the children? I want these children to get the best home possible not the closest one. My heart breaks for the children that are not able to find the best home for them. It seems that there are so many ways that these children get the short end of the stick. I just want them to be cared for.
The only thing that keeps me going is that I know my God is bigger than all of this. When he finds the right children for our family there is nothing and no one that will be able to stop Him from getting those children to us. I am trying my best to be patient as I know this is the path God has called me to go down. But, I can't decide what to do with my wonderful husband. He finds these children and he gets so attached to them. It is so difficult to see these children needing a loving home and not get attached to them. James gets attached every time. It is hard for him to see that the right children will come to us. He wants his children and he wants them now. I know how he feels and at times I feel so frustrated, but I will just keep going until my children find me.
Again- thank you all for your support and love you have shown us. We are glad to have each of you in our lives and we will continue to pray for our children.
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