Trying to move on...

We can't help but feel saddened and overwhelmed at the prospect of starting this process over again.  It is hard to accept and to move on but that is what we are going to do.  Our dream has been to adopt a sibling group and we still have that dream.  We have a feeling it will take us quite some time because we do not live in the United States currently.  We have also learned a lot about the way the adoption process works through all of this. 

There are recruiters that look for possible adoptive families who are the ones that actually get to know the potential adoptive families.  Recently almost every state has developed these "permanancy boards".  These boards are made up of the people who actually get the final say in who adopts children.  The kicker is that the people on the permanency committee have NEVER spoken with the families in question.  So it is all about looking good on paper.  I am sure there must have been a good reason to start these boards but I just don't see the point at the moment.  If it were my children I would want the people who chose their new family to have at the very least SPOKEN to the potentials. 

We are not holding our breath for a match any time soon, but we are moving onward.  As always we know that God has a plan for us and we are just waiting to see what it is.  Prayers are always appreciated.  Thank you.

Really Hard Day!

I am having such a hard day today.  Neither of us slept much last night as this is a lot of disappointment.  We want these kids, but what is more is that we are worried about them.  There is not a lot about the situation that I can publically share, but we are concerned for the children's future.  We want them to know unconditional and unfailing love.  We want them to have someone there for them for the rest of their lives.  We want them to have a faith in God. 
We know that God is with us and with the children.  He is the only one that will not leave.  I know that I can't see His plan for us right now and that someday I will see what this was supposed to teach us.  At this point I am just trying to take it one day at a time and get through the day.
Not sure when you will hear from us again.  It took us a little over a year to get matched the first time and it will probably take that long again.  We will try to keep others updated as we get to matching again, but I make no promises.  Thank you all for the outpouring of love and support through this difficult time. 
~Missy

We believe God has a plan

We were notified today that the foster mother has changed her mind and has decided to adopt these children.  We are all very upset and frustrated.  We were told she had worked through this and decided not to adopt the children.  It is more than a little upsetting to think you are past something and then it ends up coming back to completely stop the entire process.

The one and only thing we can say right now is that we believe that God has a plan for us and the right children are out there waiting for us.  It is hard not to get frustrated and upset, but we just keep reminding ourselves that He has a plan for us.  Please continue to pray for us as we work through our feelings of disappointment and wait for another match with the children who were meant to be our family.  Thank you.  ~Missy

Frustration on the Home Front

Well- we trust that God will keep us on his plan.  We feel he had led us this far and we trust that he will keep leading us.

  So progress has slowed considerably because of the children's foster mother.  She is upset and we understand why.  She loves these children and wants what is best for them, but she also wants them to stay with her.  We don't know what is going to happen at this point.  We pray that she will help the children transition to our home, but we don't know anything.  The agency workers are trying to help her work through her feelings, but we just don't know what will happen. 

As you can imagine we are confused and upset by this news.  The foster mother was given the opportunity to adopt these children several times and she decided not to so we thought she would be happy that the children had found a permanent home all together.  We want this adoption to happen and we want to support her as well.  But, we don't want to go through all of this for months and months only to end up having the whole thing stopped. 

Again- we trust God to have brought us this far and we trust that he will see us through all of this.  We would appreciate your continued prayers for our family as we wait to hear what will happen. 

Not much news yet

So middle of last month was the birthday of one of our new daughters, the end of this month is the birthday of one of our new sons and the beginning of next month is the birthday of our other new daughter so we went down and got them all birthday presents and I got it sent out in the mail today so that they now they are a part of our family. We are so excited to get to know these kids and provide them their forever home. I know everyone wants to know when they will come to live with us. I would too. Unfortunately we do not have any kind of idea on a time frame yet. We will keep everyone posted as we get to know them and learn more of a time line.

Thank you to everyone that is following us on this great adventure. Feel free to leave comments or ask questions and we will do our best to answer them.

The St. Kitts Segotas

NEW PICTURES

Wow! We got new pictures of our children!  They are amazing.  I can't wait to meet them in person.  We are so lucky!!!!!! 
On the great side, they weathered Superstorm Sandy in fine style and everyone is doing well.  Thanks for all the prayers. 
I promise that when we move further along in this process we will share some of the photos but right now we want to keep them all to ourselves.  Sorry.  In penance, I will share a photo of the St. Kitts portion of our family doing the Platapus face! HA